The Energy of Gratitude
While saying “thank-you” is certainly polite, and it may grease the skids for further interactions with clients, and others, that’s not the big pay-off for being grateful.
It’s the energy.
And, no, I’m not talking about karma, or a good spirit or anything like that. What I’m referring to is the way being grateful, truly grateful, makes a person feel lighter, happier and special.
Here’s an example: Once, as a kid, I found myself playing pool with an adult who obviously knew how to play. I, on the other hand, was bad at everything, so I was ready to be trounced. I just didn’t know it would happen so fast. He let me break, and somehow I managed to sink the 8-ball, and only the 8-ball.
My shoulders drooped, and the familiar feeling of being a loser washed over me.
That’s when he said, in an astonished tone, “You win!”
When he explained that the rules state that sinking the 8-ball on the break is an automatic win, I was filled with joy! I was SO thankful for this, excuse the pun, “lucky break”, that I stood up straight, beaming! I felt terrific!
It was all perspective. When I felt like I lost, it stunk. I felt physically bad. When I realized that I had won, I absolutely beamed with happiness. But the situation was the same either way. I had knocked a ball into the pocket of the pool table.
When we feel like things are bad, “I hate my job. My boss is a jerk. It’s too cold” we feel horrible. When we focus on the good, “I have a steady job. My coworkers are great. I have warm clthes to wear.”, we feel terrific. It’s our choice. Yeah, I know, it’s what your mother said, and it seemed all shallow and unrealistic then, but it works.
Don’t believe me? Cool. Try it for 1 week. Spend as much time and effort as you can listing out things you can honestly be thankful for. Really think about them, write them down. The more you can really see the value in these good things, the more you will feel good, the more energy you will have.
Let me know in the comments what you think, and how it works for you. And, as always, thanks for your time.